Don doesn't like to commit to what he's doing. By commit I mean he doesn't like to put his whole physical presence into whatever move he's performing. It's this half-effort that keeps his heart-rate down, and by-and-large hinders his progress toward his goals.
Often times Don feels silly. He stops in the middle of a move and says "this is stupid" or "I don't want to do this anymore." He feels self-conscious somehow, even though I am right next to him, the only other person in the whole house, and I am doing the same move right along with him. This second behavior goes further in hurting him than the first, in that his progress is not hindered but halted.
I have tried sitting him down and asking him if he trusts me to do the job he's hired me to do. He has said yes to this question. Next I tried explaining to him that for me to do my job effectively I need his help. I need his commitment, or else we cannot accomplish what he wants to accomplish. I then asked him if we could proceed forward and if he could allow me the latitude I need to provide him with what he is paying me for. He, again, said yes.
And the bad attitude continues anyway. He has now gone so far as to tell me "no more ball exercises." By that he means the 22" balance ball that I had him use that session for many of his exercises. No more ball? That one little sentence cuts dozens and dozens of moves out of my usable repertoire with him. Yes, I know dozens and dozens more, but to put that limitation on myself for no good reason is just frustrating.
It's gotten to the point where I dread him coming in anymore. Working with him is pulling teeth and emotionally draining. This is not how this is supposed to work. I do this job because I love it, and I love people, but this guy seems set on frustrating me. Luckily, so far, I have managed to be diplomatic and show no signs of frustration, but diplomacy can only fail just so many times before I start to lose my cool.
Anyone have any psychological tricks, tips, tactics that they might want to suggest? Otherwise I am wasting this guy's money, and he is wasting my time.
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